One young academically excellent person went to apply for a managerial
position in a big company.
He passed the first interview, the director did the last interview, made
the last decision.
The director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic
achievements
were excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the
postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not score.
The director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?"the
youth
answered "none".
The director asked, " Was it your father who paid for your schoolfees?"
The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old,it
was
my mother who paid for my school fees.
The director asked, " Where did your mother work?" The youthanswered,
"My
mother worked as clothes cleaner. The director requested the youth to
show
his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and
perfect.
The director asked, " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes
before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wantedme to study
and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than
me.
The director said, "I have a request. When you go back today, go and
clean
your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.*
The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went
back, he happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands. His
mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands
to
the kid.
The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did
that.
It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so
wrinkled,
and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so
painful
that his mother shivered when they were cleaned with water.
This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of
hands
that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fee.
The
bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay
for
his graduation, academic excellence and his future.
After finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth quietly
washed
all the remaining clothes for his mother.
That night, mother and son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the youth went to the director's office.
The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, asked: " Can you
tell
me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?"
The youth answered, " I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished
cleaning all the remaining clothes'
The Director asked, " please tell me your feelings."
The youth said, Number 1, I know now what is appreciation. Without my
mother, there would not the successful me today. Number 2, by working
together and helping
my mother, only I now realize how difficult and tough it is to get
something done. Number 3, I have come to appreciate the importance and
value of family relationship.
The director said, " This is what I am looking for to be my manager.
I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a
person
who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who
would not put money as his only goal in life. You are hired.
Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect
of
his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The
company's performance improved tremendously.
A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted,
would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself
first.
He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he
assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a
manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would
always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good
academically,
may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel sense of
achievement. He will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more.
If
we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or
are
we destroying the kid instead?*
You can let your kid live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano,
watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them
experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls
together
with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money
to
hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You
want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day
their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The
most important thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort and
experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to
gettings done.
I hope you found the gold.
